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If you love a prodigal, you can discover help and hope for your wilderness journey right here
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at When You Love a Prodigal and also help and hope for your own life journey.
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So how did you do in exercising patience this past week?
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If patience was a challenge, today's clothing choice may be even more challenging.
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So be sure to jot down the things you want to put into practice.
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It was just a little thing. My friend forgot we had a brunch appointment.
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Please forgive me, Judy. Of course, I forgave her.
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And after all, I had just done the same thing to a friend just weeks before.
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I totally forgot we were having breakfast together. And she forgave me.
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Forgiveness is not always so easy, though, is it, when the offense is bigger, more hurtful,
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and even devastating. How do you say, I forgive you, to the scammer who stole your identity,
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or to the man who raped your daughter, or like our adopted son, to the dad who never showed up,
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and the mother who consistently chose her addictions?
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Hard to forgive those kinds of things, isn't it? Does God really want us to?
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How do you ask forgiveness, not just forgive someone, but ask forgiveness from a friend you have hurt,
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from a stranger you harmed with your carelessness, for unkind words, yelled at a child?
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God is clear. He said, we must forgive, and we must ask for forgiveness when we have harmed or hurt someone.
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Forgiveness is an essential garment in our wardrobe as a child of God.
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Surely Peter thought he was being very magnanimous in his suggesting to Jesus that he would forgive someone seven times.
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But Jesus said, I tell you not seven times, but seventy-seven times. Infinite, really.
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You don't stop forgiving, even if they've hurt you over and over.
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And some of our protocols may need to be forgiven seventy-seven times or even more.
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Paul tells us that an evidence of a forgiving heart is real love, which we're looking at more next week,
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that keeps no record of being wronged.
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Hmm. I actually have kept plenty of records like this story.
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I did it again. Our prodigal and a friend were with us, my husband and me.
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We were telling stories. One of my favorite activities.
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I couldn't resist. I told not one, but two stories of bad choices our son had made in the past.
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He did not laugh. He even looked hurt.
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He was doing much better and didn't really want to be reminded of the choices he used to make.
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And yet I was bringing them up to his friend.
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I asked for his forgiveness, which he gave because we'd gotten pretty good at forgiving each other.
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Several times I have had to apologize for bringing up his past choices.
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Clearly, I have kept some record of wrongs.
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Of course, I am a writer and speaker and stories are my currency.
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And there's great benefit in remembering the past and learning from it and moving into a better future.
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But probably you have, as I have, let the ways those choices past or current have touched or hurt or offended or angered me, each of us.
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And I have a bigger in our minds. I have a mental list and in some cases I have a written list of some of the offenses that our son did.
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Some are minor irritations. Others are legitimate wrongs.
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And some are deep wounds of the way that he is hurt.
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And yet scripture says love doesn't hold on, doesn't keep a record of those offenses.
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Perhaps you remember when your loved one yelled and cursed at you.
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When she lied to your face intentionally deceitful and not at all remorseful.
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How frightened you were for your other children when he threatened you.
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And you waited up all night not knowing where she was and what she was doing.
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When you bailed him out of jail.
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The night the police knocked on your door to tell you about the accident she was in.
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On and on the list goes, you might be recounting some of those wrongs right now.
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Then, oh yeah, there are the words that you have hurled at your loved one.
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You always lie to me. You're never responsible.
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Will I ever be able to trust you again?
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You never care about anyone but yourself.
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If you do that again, don't bother to come home.
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You know, you've probably said words like that.
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I have.
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These words, these thoughts reflect the reality of keeping a record of wrongs.
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Our love protocols wrong themselves, others, and those who love them.
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Sometimes those wrongs pile up and threaten to crush us.
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How can we trust, believe, or hope? How can we forgive?
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Because Jesus has shown us how.
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He came in love and was rejected.
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He healed and was accused instead of thanked.
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He was scourged and crucified bearing our sins while the crowd hurled insults.
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Soldiers beat him and the Pharisees smiled.
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He could have called legions of angels.
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He could have destroyed them on the spot.
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He could have said, I'll be back and I'll get even.
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But he didn't. He forgave them.
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And that's what he asks us to do.
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As we let the spirit fill us, I think we talked about the spirit filling us on each of these
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things to enable us to choose to wear these pieces of clothing.
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As we let the spirit fill us with the same love that Christ has,
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we are freed from making our lists, from keeping a record of the ways that our protocols have wronged us.
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And we are empowered to forgive and to truly love.
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Jesus is our example.
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It's not hard for me to be overwhelmed with wonder and gratitude at how Jesus has forgiven me.
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All my sin, my many sins, he took on himself because he loves me.
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And as he hung on that cross, he looked out over the crowd, the scoffers, the executioners,
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and you and me and our protocols, and he said these amazing words,
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Father, forgive them. They do not know what they are doing.
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Now, I could argue that they did indeed know what they were doing, but it was very intentional.
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And I can easily forgive the mistakes, the forgetfulness, the unintentional hurts.
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But when someone chooses to hurt or to harm or to speak maliciously or to steal or lie or abuse,
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can we forgive? It's what Jesus says we are to do, forgive as he has forgiven us.
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Paul tells us, if any of you has a grievance against someone, forgive as the Lord has forgiven you.
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As the Lord forgave willingly in love and mercy, in the spirit,
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as in all the impossible requests and requirements Jesus has given us,
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and there really are many of them beyond our abilities to put on that cloth either to act in a way that Jesus has asked us to.
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He did it first. Everything he asks of us, he's already done it.
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He's demonstrated that it's possible not because we're good or because we're so strong,
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but because he has sent his spirit to live in us and to give us like the mind of Christ
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and to do a transforming work in us that enables us to draw on the strength of Jesus to do what he's asked us to do.
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And I have found when I forgive or ask forgiveness, which sometimes is harder,
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at least two people get set free, the one who is forgiven and the one who forgives.
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So what about you? Is there someone that you need to forgive?
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Maybe you're prodigal, maybe someone else, but someone who has harmed you,
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offended you, that you need to forgive, but maybe also you have hurt or harmed or offended someone,
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and you need to ask them to forgive you.
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Next week, we're going to get dressed up in love.
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God bless you.